Being cheated on is not an easy thing to handle. Learning how to deal with a cheater can help you regain control of your life and help you decide how you want to proceed in your future. While keying the cheater’s car may seem like a cathartic reaction, this is not going to help you move nor will it make you feel any better.
The negative emotional and mental side effects from being cheated on can stay with you for a lifetime. Being cheated on stirs up insecurities, low self-esteem, distrust, inability to open up, and give you feelings of worthlessness, and make you question your qualities and physical appearance. Being cheated on is emotionally devastating and can change your personality for a life time.
When you suffer this fate and you are 100% certain about it being true, perhaps you have caught them right in the act, first thing to do is to confront your partner about their infidelity; and do not be shy or sheepish in doing so. This will allow them the opportunity to plead their case with you and for you to be perfectly clear about your feelings. Your feelings of betrayal, anger, humiliation, and hurt should be clear. This is also an opportunity to let them know if you plan on ending the relationship.
However, many still find understanding the ‘why’ (reason) behind the act; to be an important part of the grieving process. one natural fact is that women cannot cheat with someone she is not in love with. a man in the contrary cheats once he crushes on someone and his sexual characters activated. Men, therefore cheat for sex whereas women cheat due to love.
Try your best not to blame yourself for the act. Whether you feel you weren’t as sexually okay, loving, or attentive as you could have been, nothing you did makes you deserving of being cheated on. If your partner was truly unhappy they should have made efforts to upgrade or improve your status to their expectation or told you upfront and ended the relationship rather than sleeping with someone new. Once you take the blame, it will become a continuous process and you will always be made to keep taking the blame each time it reoccurs.
If it is however, crystal clear that you are the reason that pushed your partner to that extent it becomes very imminent your should work on those gray areas and win your spouse back
Give yourself some time to truly think about the benefits and detriments of staying further or quitting in the relationship. No matter which direction you are taking, you need to be completely honest with yourself about your wants and needs in a relationship from this point on. When considering whether to stay in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you ask.